We Went Virtual Speed Dating, So You Don’t Have To. But Maybe You Should.

If you’d told me a month ago that I would be getting dressed for a virtual dating event, I would have said that you’re crazy. But that’s exactly what I did last Thursday night. My twin sister and I both signed up for a virtual speed dating event for black singles in the DMV (Washington, DC, Maryland and Virginia tristate area).

All ready for virtual dates.

I’ve been working from home since April and DC is recently slowly reopening. Because we’ve been urged to maintain a social distance and stay home for the foreseeable future, dating plans have taken a back burner. BUT, if I can be totally honest with you I hadn’t really been putting in the effort before the quarantine to “get out there”. Spending most of my time in my home (sometimes alone) has really highlighted my love of alone time. While I recognize that’s a good thing, it’s important to allow space for connection with others. There was a point during the quarantine that I realized I was almost too happy alone and decided to make a change. While it’s not the biggest concern during this time, human interaction plays a major role in our mental health.


The concept of virtual speed dating is simple. A group of singles log on for a Zoom call at a set time. After a brief rundown from the host, the women are all placed in private “rooms”. The men rotate into each room for 5 minute “dates”. The event itself wasn’t that well organized, but it was fun. I guess there was a mix up on the host’s side, because I was once matched with Kemet (my sister). The conversations were generally enjoyable with varying degrees of awkwardness.


When Kemet & I matched. Best date of the night :)

This time around virtual speed dating came with little reward in the way of love, but it also meant little risk. I was able to put myself out there while protecting my time and space from my home office. It’s an easy way to dip your toes in the water and try out a different type of dating.


x Nia